He Has Cold Feet
Men often have a harder time picking up on subtle relationship cues — and because of this, men may not be aware of the point in which your bond has moved to a higher expectation of commitment. In fact, some guys get anxious about becoming attached, even if they seem to enjoy the relationship. Men often ‘rubber band,’ withdraw, or pull back if they feel like the relationship has moved beyond their comfort zone. This new territory can take a man by surprise — even if you felt like he was forging ahead at the same pace you were.
He Gets Performance Jitters
Do men think about sex a lot? Sure they do, but their fears of sexual inadequacy may be just as frequent. If a man has ever had an unsuccessful go at sex (and most of them have! — flopped romps can be triggered by common missteps such as drinking too much), his stress in the bedroom can stockpile . Many men will even avoid sex rather than talk honestly about their fears with their partner, and this can harm both the sexual health and the emotional health of a relationship.
He’s Depressed
Depression has no gender bias: It can strike anyone, including the most macho of men. However, studies show that men who are depressed are less likely to open up about their sadness or lack of energy than women. Instead, they are more likely to drink more. Some men are uncomfortable about feeling sad, and their sadness or depression may come out as anger.. Depression is one of the most dangerous secrets a man can keep, so if you think a male in your life could be depressed, it’s important to let him know that you’re concerned.
He Suppresses (Instead of Addresses) Doubt
Some men are instilled with the notion that they shouldn’t show signs of fear or doubt; eventually, those doubts and fears can snowball into big secrets, ones they may keep even from themselves. Growing up they were taught that part of being a man was having control over emotions. They don’t want to be seen as someone who is “emotional,” rather as someone who is rational and logical. Showing emotions would be considered weak and irresponsible so they suppress instead of express. Unfortunately, this belief system is very much present in most men in our society.
He Feels Afraid of His Own Feelings
Doubt isn’t the only emotion men stay hush-hush about — in fact, some guys have a hard time opening up about a range of feelings. Because many men are problem solvers and are uncomfortable talking about feelings, there are a number of intense feelings that don’t get expressed with words, but rather acted out.. The good news? Men aren’t Neanderthals. The emotions are there; they just need to be uncovered.
And the Biggest Secret Men Keep…
Here’s a fact: Men need (and want) intimacy just as much as women do. Mutual respect, trust, support, and communication — these relationship musts are just as important for a man’s as they are for a woman’s. When both partners are able to open up and let their relationship develop at its own pace, that love will be nurtured by positivity — rather than stunted by secrets.
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